Show You Care: Validate and Reframe We all disagree with our spouse about things. Mentors, you will hear this all the time. They will come with two different perspectives. As marriage… read more →
Managing conflict with couples starts by recognizing common conflict patterns. My wife and I used to have a very destructive pattern in our marriage. It went like this. She would… read more →
Change the Pattern In our marriage program, we frequently see couples that are blaming each other. I’ve been talking about how to shift a couple from blame and criticism to… read more →
Understand the Impact of the Pattern I’ve talked to pastors and seeing couples blaming each other is common in pastoral counseling. Jim and Susan seemed to be stuck in a… read more →
I recently had a mentor ask me how to stop a couple from blaming each other. I asked her to explain to me what was happening. Jim and Jane (not… read more →
When you are a marriage mentor, people will assume that you have a perfect relationship. They will assume that you are always using the best communication skills and when there… read more →
We want to help you to become a relationship coach. Michelle and I have worked with hundreds of couples over the years. Often, there is resistance to change initially. Once… read more →
My wife and I were meeting with a couple and they really wanted to have a better relationship. They were stuck in the blame game – constantly blaming each other… read more →
Offering advice can be dangerous if it’s not done in the right way at the right time. I like to use the Bible to defend my position, even when I’m… read more →
If you want to help couples to improve their marriage satisfaction, master consequence questions. I’ve watched a number of mentors struggle with this skill. They tend to jump from identifying a… read more →
