Offering advice can be dangerous if it’s not done in the right way at the right time. I like to use the Bible to defend my position, even when I’m… read more →

If you want to help couples to improve their marriage satisfaction, master consequence questions. I’ve watched a number of mentors struggle with this skill. They tend to jump from identifying a… read more →

The big error that I see marriage mentors make is skipping the consequence questions. They tend to hear a problem and then jump to a solution. Often, someone hasn’t decided… read more →

Marriage mentors, helping people change is a big part of what you need to do. When a couple comes to a class or meets with you, they often know that… read more →

Have you ever had someone tell you what to do? How did you react? Did it depend on whether or not you were ready to hear it? What helps you… read more →

When we were new to mentoring, we often weren’t sure what to do next. Someone would say something and I would think, “What do I do now?” I wasn’t very proficient… read more →

When couples haven’t decided to change there are some very common behaviors. As a mentor, you are going to see these. I would bet that you’ve experienced some of them!… read more →

As part of our Christian mentoring resources, I want to talk about if someone has decided to change. You will be a much more effective marriage mentor when you recognize… read more →

Understanding the process of change is key for marriage mentors. This will help you to know what tactics to apply and when to apply them. Before I understood this, I… read more →

One time we were meeting with a couple that knew they weren’t doing well, but they didn’t know what to change. We asked them how much time they spent with… read more →