Anger and Depression: Part of Healing from Infidelity Mark found out that Lisa was having an affair. He was caught up in couple of normal emotional cycles. First, he was… read more →

Obsession: Part of Healing from Infidelity My wife and I were sitting across from Mark and Lisa and listening to their pain. Lisa just admitted that she had an affair.… read more →

Not Understanding the Weight of an Issue Can Come Across as Dismissive and Uncaring Mentors can help couples by asking them if a particular issue is a pebble or a… read more →

Conflict Resolution: Do You Solve or Manage a Problem? Mentors, when you meet with couples they will have conflict on specific issues. Who doesn’t? How do we help couples with… read more →

Mentors – Help Couples Recognize How They Shut Down Communication! I want to help mentors recognize poor communication behaviors that couples engage in. If you can help couples to explore… read more →

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – Behaviors that Harm Marriage Relationships John Gottman, one of the top marriage researchers in the world, researched marriages by watching couples in a lab.… read more →

How Mentors Can Use the 5 Love Languages to Improve Connection When we teach our course for marriages that are struggling, we always talk about the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.… read more →

John Gottman: Build 5 Positive Interactions for Every Negative Interaction I looked around the small group and saw some very unsure expressions. My wife and I were leading a small… read more →

You are Responsible for Your Thoughts I want to think the way the apostle Paul advised the Philippians, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is… read more →

When Do You Tell a Couple in Pain to Forgive? David and Sarah were sitting across from us and they were in deep pain. David found out a few weeks… read more →