How to Help Someone Have you ever opened up to someone and then felt either dismissed or attacked? You bare your soul and the person reacts in a way that… read more →

I was not a naturally empathic person. I grew up living in my mind and ignoring my emotions. As we have met with couples, I have learned to validate and… read more →

I love Psalm 13. It brings up all kinds of questions about responding to someone who is hurt and questioning God, themselves, or others. How do we respond when our… read more →

I used to be terrible at emotionally connecting with my wife. Sure, I told her I loved her all the time, and that didn’t hurt. Honestly, I think she didn’t… read more →

Affair Recovery – The First Step is Atonement Michael and Jennifer sat on our living room sofa, both in a great deal of pain. Michael had just confessed that he… read more →

I spent some time with my grandson recently. I noticed that he had gotten a note that said, “I caught you being good.” Then, it had a specific behavior that… read more →

Has your marriage ever felt stuck? That is a terrible feeling. You want to have a better relationship, but it never seems to improve. At least, it only improves for… read more →

Couples that are struggling in their marriage often come into a meeting with a mentor and blame and criticize each other. A typical conversation goes something like this: She (angrily)… read more →

Justin sat on the couch watching TV and looked up when Nicole came into the room. He wondered, “Is she open to having sex tonight?” When Nicole gave him a… read more →

A couple of months ago, I was sitting in a small group focused on helping us process grief. For me, it was about processing the grief that I have over… read more →