Taking Responsibility Can Build Connection In our marriage mentoring, I like to talk about what each one of us is responsible for. Couples are often confused about this. When we… read more →
Using Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors As a Framework I became a better marriage mentor when I started to understand the interplay between thoughts, feelings and behaviors. This is a core… read more →
Not Expressing Emotions Risks Disconnection I grew up in a family where we didn’t express emotions. I was encouraged to be analytical and logical. As I’ve mentored couples and talked… read more →
Communicating At Deeper Levels Builds Connection We all want a sense of connection with our spouse. We want to know that they are there for us. We want this sense… read more →
One Person Can Disconnect Faster Kevin and Laura were distant. They weren’t sleeping in the same bedroom. They were wondering if they should stay together when they came to us.… read more →
Unrealized Communication Filters Break Down Understanding Tony and Crystal were sitting in our living room. They were struggling with communication and misunderstandings. Each of the them were hurt by what… read more →
Jesus’ Conflict Management Rule I am always amazed with how succinctly Jesus was able to put truth. His wisdom usually amazes me. I don’t know why I’m amazed. I guess… read more →
Anger and Depression: Part of Healing from Infidelity Mark found out that Lisa was having an affair. He was caught up in couple of normal emotional cycles. First, he was… read more →
Obsession: Part of Healing from Infidelity My wife and I were sitting across from Mark and Lisa and listening to their pain. Lisa just admitted that she had an affair.… read more →
Not Understanding the Weight of an Issue Can Come Across as Dismissive and Uncaring Mentors can help couples by asking them if a particular issue is a pebble or a… read more →
