Conflict Resolution: Do You Solve or Manage a Problem? Mentors, when you meet with couples they will have conflict on specific issues. Who doesn’t? How do we help couples with… read more →
Mentors – Help Couples Recognize How They Shut Down Communication! I want to help mentors recognize poor communication behaviors that couples engage in. If you can help couples to explore… read more →
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse – Behaviors that Harm Marriage Relationships John Gottman, one of the top marriage researchers in the world, researched marriages by watching couples in a lab.… read more →
How Mentors Can Use the 5 Love Languages to Improve Connection When we teach our course for marriages that are struggling, we always talk about the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.… read more →
John Gottman: Build 5 Positive Interactions for Every Negative Interaction I looked around the small group and saw some very unsure expressions. My wife and I were leading a small… read more →
When Do You Tell a Couple in Pain to Forgive? David and Sarah were sitting across from us and they were in deep pain. David found out a few weeks… read more →
Relationship Safety is Key for Marriage Mentoring The heart of marriage is to have a great relationship. It’s a love relationship. It’s where we feel safe. We feel secure. We… read more →
As Church Leaders – How do We Help Marriages to Improve? I want to help couples that are struggling. I want to equip the church. I think the church has… read more →
Show You Care: Validate and Reframe We all disagree with our spouse about things. Mentors, you will hear this all the time. They will come with two different perspectives. As marriage… read more →
Managing conflict with couples starts by recognizing common conflict patterns. My wife and I used to have a very destructive pattern in our marriage. It went like this. She would… read more →
